Several months ago I overheard a discussion about why mothers should not work. I was astounded by how critical they could be towards another sister who was making a choice for her family. There are so many reasons why we choose to work and I was shocked and offended by the level of judgement.
I will admit that for much of this year I have been "overemployed." Our family goal is to reduce the number of hours that I work but my workload can be quite varied. Setting aside extenuating circumstances, I would still choose to work.
God has blessed me with a wonderful husband and three beautiful children who are at the heart of the decisions that we make. To truly embrace who God created me to be, I have to identify all the different parts of me. One of the strongest parts of me is my drive to achieve and accomplish goals. I find great satisfaction at work. Over the course of the last two years, I have regained a small portion of my own self worth by becoming part of a project that has great value for the whole system. Again I am able to interact with wonderful colleagues who provide me with a variety of opportunities that expand my personal development.
Working or Staying at Home is a personal family choice. I don't think there is one right answer for everyone. Most days I love that I can take my children to work me with. Some days it is overwhelming to know that I must produce at work while also caring for the kids. Some days I feel guilty that my children spent their summer at work instead of playing or going to camp. Today though, my son had a meltdown at work--not because he didn't want to be there, because he couldn't stay longer and ride along on a delivery. Without work, I wouldn't feel fulfilled. I am a better wife and mother when I am able to work.
We have only to look to Proverbs 31 to find that we all have value when we embrace and pursue our God-given gifts and talents.
Proverbs 31:15 "She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family..."
Proverbs 31:16 "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard."
Proverbs 31:24 "She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes."
Proverbs 31:27 "She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness."
I will never be able to embody all the attributes of the Proverbs 31 Wife but I know that I have the freedom and responsibility to live in a way that best exemplifies what Christ created me to be--
A Wife, A Mother, A Businesswoman
All the time, a warrior in this world living radically.
Proverbs 31:30-31 "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."